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What are your thoughts on these theories of raising a child? How valid are they?

-If you over-compliment the child and give affirmation often, he'll have a good self-esteem. But when he matures and finds out that he has faults, he'll be shocked, and therefore disappointed in himself thinking "what's wrong with me??? i'm better than this." Areas of weakness becomes areas of despair because he's always been told these areas were strengths.
In light of this, should you refrain from complimenting the child on a regular basis. That way, the child has lower standards for himself and can therefore be more pleased more often with himself when he performs well because he's exceeding the standards set for him.

- Only complimenting a child every time he/she does a good job at something like good grades in school, or having a good baseball game, or doing well in the church play should be avoided. Because this could communicate that parents' love is conditional....that it mainly exists when the child performs well. When the child fails in these areas (school, sports, church, etc.), he may feel his parents' acceptance and love has decreased. Additionally, his self-esteem will be deflated because the basis of his esteem has always been good performance.

- Every time a child does something well, you tell them they just got lucky. That way, the child learns to develop a good lucky feeling.